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My whole thing in 2016 is that I need to stop people pleasing completely does anyone else feel like this?
I have become quite strong-minded in the last few years and know who I am but sometimes I slip back into old habits just like us all and people please without even thinking. I want this to be a thing of the past. Now I do not mean we do not have to care for other people of course we do putting others before ourselves is the key to happiness.
I have become quite strong-minded in the last few years and know who I am but sometimes I slip back into old habits just like us all and people please without even thinking. I want this to be a thing of the past. Now I do not mean we do not have to care for other people of course we do putting others before ourselves is the key to happiness.
But there is a difference...
I remember being a teenager and people pleasing was the last thing from my mind. I was quite possibly the opposite, people aggravating lol. But I didn’t have it all figured out I was also was quite self-centred so I didn’t care too much about other peoples well being in general.
Somewhere along the line I grew up and matured and through that maturity learned that we need to look out for one another.
Somewhere along my life path the essence of my self-worth dismissed slightly, I began people pleasing without even knowing it and began slightly relying on peoples opinions to reiterate what I believed about myself.
Do you ever find yourself agreeing to things just because its easier than saying no.
I don’t mean being uncaring and not considering other peoples feelings I mean actually making decisions based on the fear of what people may think of you.
I definitely remember living in a small town in Ireland and being almost paranoid about what people may say or think of me if I made certain statements or choices. Being at home over the holidays has given me the opportunity to catch up with friends and they have stated the same feeling, almost like there a roof over their head holding them down because they are concerned with what people, even friends may judge them.
I also spoke to another friend who stated that she suggested that she doesn’t like people not liking her. I cringed at the thought of this, I remember thinking like this and it really kept me from being myself.
We have to be ourselves regardless of what others think. It is impossible to please everyone on this earth and we have to accept it, not everyone is going to like who we are but that is okay, we are loved regardless. If you believe like I do in our God you know you are loved already, if you don't I am here to tell you, you are loved and do not need peoples approval so not living for it.
A long time ago I gave up caring what people think about me, being honest I think moving to London was the start for me I realised that I needed to be who I really was without caring about the options of others, as that is what holds us back in life.
If we seek the approval of others to generate self-worth instead of it being self-generated, we will make decisions based on this. The one thing that faith has thought me is that god loves us regardless if no one else did he still would.
And being honest to the wrong people we will never have any worth but to the right people we will always mean everything.
So in conclusion we need to stop people pleasing and do what is really us.
Still be polite, but be aware of why you are saying yes, what you are saying yes to and why you are agreeing to things.
I hope you are inspired.
Loves Annie xxx
